Liebster award

 

I was nominated for the Liebster award by one of my favourite bloggers; Chelsea of blissfullybubbly.com. I was so surprised when I got the nomination and so grateful as well. Chelsea’s blog is filled with wonderful tips and advice from gift buying to relationships. I absolutely love it. Thank you so much Chelsea for nominating me. I remember seeing nominations like these all the time on other blogs before I started blogging and I always got a little excited for the blogger who was nominated and now its actually my turn to get a bit excited.

The idea behind the Liebster award is simply blogger recognition and appreciation. Accepting the award gives the nominee an opportunity to nominate other bloggers who can then nominate other bloggers.  By accepting the award I  need to share 10 facts about me and answer a few questions as well. So here are 10 very random facts about me.

  1. I watch episodes of Friends over and over again and I never get tired of seeing them.
  2. I don’t like having breakfast. It is really a challenge for me to eat that early in the morning and any time before 10 am is considered too early for me.
  3. I don’t think I am an awesome cook because I never quite know just how things will turn out. They usually turn out pretty good but I am well aware that it could easily go either way.
  4. I learnt to swim when I was 21. When you live on an island everyone assumes you can swim and rightfully so since there are beaches pretty much everywhere but I couldn’t before, but then I signed up for swimming classes and now I have a certificate to prove that I can.
  5. I turned 30 this year and a week ago I got asked for ID when I bought cider at   TESCO.
  6. I still get excited about all the toys and chocolates that are at the stores during Christmas.
  7. I know some people love makeup but for me I love organic skincare products. I don’t think I could ever have enough. I just love trying out new brands but I always go back to my favourites.
  8. I like everything to do with travelling I dot even mind waiting for the flight to arrive.
  9. I order pretty much the exact same thing whenever I go to fast food restaurants. Since I don’t go very often I really can’t be bothered to try whatever is new I rather just stick to what I’m used to.
  10. I have strawberry legs. If you don’t know what that is its the tiny dots that appear all over your legs due to shaving. I think for me it is a mixture of that and keratosis pilaris which has similar appearances on the skin. That is definitely my biggest insecurity.

In addition to sharing 10 random facts about myself Chelsea also asked me a few questions which I will answer below.

 

Why did you start your blog?

I started my blog because I wanted to share my passions online. I started blogging definitely as a personal form of not just expression but relaxation as well. It can be a bit stressful maintaining a blog but overall it is such a rewarding experience. My advice to new bloggers is to keep at it because you can only ever get better and also to join a community of other bloggers where you can all support and encourage each other.

 

What is your favorite topic to write about?

Definitely organic skincare. Having beautiful skin has always been a passion  of mine and up until a few years ago I never paid much attention to the ingredients on some of my favorite skincare products. Choosing to take the organic route was one of the best decisions I ever made and I love sharing new brands and products that work for me.

 

What is your favorite movie?

A walk to remember is one of those beautiful but sad love stories without the predictable happy ending. It speaks of love that one would hope doesn’t just exist in movies.

 

Name a blogger who inspires you most and why?

Chelsea from blissfully bubbly definitely is an inspiration and its not because of the nomination lol. I love the layout of her blog, her choice of colours and the advice she provides especially on her Marriage Monday posts which I always  look forward to reading. There are so many bloggers who inspire me; I wish I could have selected more than just one but at least I can nominate a few of them.

 

If you could pick any place to live where would it be and why?

I would have to say St.Lucia because that is where I lived for pretty much all of my life and I will always consider it to be home even if I don’t live there right now.My family lives there and my husband’s family as well. It’s a beautiful island with very lovely people and I simply couldn’t imagine anywhere better than home.

 

Here are my nominees:

Jess from Jessxclare

Erika from PAE reviews

Kayla from Kayla Loves

El from Exclusory

Kris Marie from Boston Book Reader

Hebah from Hebah Pervaiz

Caitlin from Caitlincx

Carly from Pretty style of living

Becca from Becca Whiting

Sian from Okami-ammy

All of these bloggers inspire me for different reasons and they blog about beauty, lifestyle, books, gaming and all sorts of other things. They are different and all very much worth reading about.

These are the rules for accepting the award.

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  • Write a post to show off your award.
  • Give a brief story of how your blog started /give advice to a new blogger.
  • Answer the questions included below.
  • Select 5-10 bloggers you want to give this award to.
  • Comment on each blog and let them know you have nominated them and include the link to your post.

These are my 5 questions.

  1. Do you wish you started blogging sooner? Give a reason or reasons for your answer.
  2. What is your favourite childhood memory?
  3. What is your absolute best time of the year?
  4. What was the last post you read about?
  5. Where do you find your inspiration for blogging?

Hope you all enjoyed this post. As always thank you for reading.

 

 

 

Top 10 Tips On Turning 30

 

So now that we have managed to read out that title lol let’s get into this post. Today on December 2nd 2017 I turned 30; and given the fact that I am at home at 8:20 pm typing this post says a bit about what turning 30 looks like (I’m kidding) . This is one of those birthdays where at least one or maybe several people will tell you that you’re getting old. Even if technically you’re only one year older than 29 the absence of the number 2 makes it a big deal apparently.I don’t feel old at all, it’s just that I tend to enjoy makeup free days, spent doing absolutely nothing a lot more than I used to. I think this is why I chose this picture rather than one with me all glammed up with an inflated number 3 and number 0 suspended somewhere over my head.(no offence to others who choose to go that way I just can’t pull it off) So just in case you are about to turn 30, already 30 or wishing you could be 30 again here are my top 10 tips.

  1. Prioritize: Although you probably should not wait until you are 30 to do this but if you aren’t already there’s no better time than the present.I know everyone will be telling you that your biological clock is ticking but what this tip is really about is recognising how you are spending your time and whether the things that you are doing are actually worth your time anyway. Are you spending too much time on social media sites? Are you spending too much time in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere or are you not spending enough time doing the things that matter like spending time with family or spending time doing the things you love.

2. Organise your finances: If you haven’t already, start thinking about setting aside something for your retirement, medical bills or if you’re married consider a joint account to put towards your home or vacations or your next vehicle. Consider clearing or reducing your credit card bill. There is so much information online for ways to minimise spending and increase savings.It’s all about making the effort to improve the look of your bank account balance.

3. Wellbeing: With age comes different levels of responsibility. Maybe you have a husband, or children, a mortgage or student loan or maybe you are battling an illness; whatever the case may be, the truth is that life never ceases to present challenges, and these vary greatly from the ones you may have endured in your teens.It’s important to focus on your wellbeing  whether it is through spirituality, meditation, yoga, or your personal methods for self care, just be sure to do something that works for you.

4. Health: Eating well , sleeping well and exercise. If my husband ever read this he would probably wonder why I am not taking my own advice because I am so guilty of ignoring all 3, but your body tells you when you are lacking in any of these areas and you will notice if you pay attention to it. Although I am not the healthiest eater and there are days when I go on just 4 hours of sleep and I have donated to a gym or two lol I do try .

5.Fitness: Although I mentioned this previously I think its important to make this a tip all on its own. Maybe like me you cannot commit to a gym, but try working out at home especially if your job is not physically demanding .You will notice that your metabolism is not what it was before  and that extra milkshake will give you a bulge that wont just magically disappear in the morning like it used to so developing a lifestyle that includes fitness is definitely something you need to do.

6. Career: Are you already doing what you love? Are you in a job that challenges you? Are you making enough? Is there something else that you would rather be doing? Ask yourself these questions. Don’t delay your desire for more out of life.

7. Anti ageing Skin care: I got mixed reviews online on the best time to start using anti ageing products. I think you will notice the difference in your skin and know when you need to upgrade your skin care regimen.If nothing else invest in a good sunscreen. This is one product that I believe is critical to preserving that youthful glow.

8. Fall in love with yourself: You have had 30 years on this earth and if that wasn’t enough time to make you love you then maybe you need to start talking to yourself like you would someone you love. Give yourself compliments. Buy yourself something nice every once in a while; just be good to you.

9. Travel: I have always wanted to go to Paris. Maybe its the movies I’ve seen or maybe because I just love a bit of over the top romance every now and then; but its one of those places I’d love to go to. It’s refreshing and relaxing to experience new cultures with that special someone or just on your own. It gives you the opportunity to just unwind outside of the routine of life.

10. Don’t be too hard on yourself: These are just tips. They are tips that I constantly need to remind myself of because I am nowhere near perfect . I remember watching an episode of Friends once when Rachel turned 30 and she was trying to work out how much time she had left to have a baby. There’s absolutely no need to do that to yourself. I am 30 and yes I am married but I don’t have any children yet, my finances are not perfect, I don’t have abs, I don’t have a perfect a job and I am ok with that. I saw this quote once on Pintrest and I will end this post on that note. Your story is unique and so so different and not worthy of comparison. Always love and appreciate yourself for who you are. Here’s to 30!!!!!!!

Please let me know what you think and feel free to share some tips of your own in the comments below.

 

The Versatile Blogger Award

I guess you can tell by the title that this post has something to do with this award. Sooooo I got nominated for the Versatile Blogger Award four times!!!!! I am so very grateful to have been nominated and I would like to say a very special thank you to PAE Reviews,Jess,Fiona, and Katie. I love all of their blogs and you should definitely check them out.

As part of the rules of the nomination I am meant to share 7 facts about myself so here goes.

My 7 Facts

  • I love pink I always have and I know its extremely girly but I just gravitate to anything pink and in my opinion rose gold is like the adult version of girly pink if that makes any sense at all. I’ve always said that if ever I have a baby girl her room is going to be the room I always wanted because I don’t think my husband would appreciate me throwing pink everywhere in our bedroom lol.
  • I never try clothes on when I go out shopping. I honestly find it a hassle to take my clothes off in a store and try stuff on so I buy them and try them on when I get home.
  • Dessert is my favourite part of the meal  lol so I usually order something really light as a main course so I can really enjoy dessert.
  • I would rather a text than a call. I don’t know why but whenever my phone rings I’m like NOOOOOOO lol I don’t even know if that might be a little mean maybe it is. I just prefer to talk face to face and if we are apart just send me a quick  message.
  • I was in a long distance relationship for 8 years we are married now and if you’re wondering how that worked out seeing that I prefer messages to actual phone calls there are exceptions to the rule lol my mom for example; she would call and  I would rather talk to her over the phone as well.
  • I am originally from St.Lucia but I live in the UK now and I have been for a little over a year.
  • I am fluent in English and patois. Patois or creole is the second language spoken in St. Lucia. If you ever visit and realise that you don’t always understand what the people are saying it’s our second language lol.

Nominations

And the nominees for the versatile blogger award are (lol I always wanted to announce nominations)

The rules are simple nominees simply have to;

  • Thank the person who nominated you and link their blog.
  • Nominate 15 bloggers for the award.
  • Share 7 facts about yourself.

Thank you for reading and a special thank you to all the ladies who nominated me. I am truly grateful. Xx

Finding Myself

 

Ancient Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu is quoted as saying he who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened.How do you know when you have found yourself? What does finding yourself mean and how does it affect your overall sense of wellbeing? Doesn’t finding yourself imply that at some point you lost yourself or could it be that we are all born lost and the ultimate purpose of life is to find yourself. I think that when you have truly discovered who you really are and accepted that person as “self”then it becomes easier to trust that person and you begin to rely a bit less on the opinion of others.

It’s difficult to know or understand who we truly are if from birth we are exposed to some of the key agents of socialisation. I don’t know who I would have been if I was born and raised in the United Kingdom to atheist parents as opposed to being born in St.Lucia in a Christian household. Normally, when people go to find themselves they seek the exact opposite of what surrounds them whether that is in terms of religion or geographical location or even sexuality.I must confess that I have never embarked on any such self seeking journey.What I have done however, is I’ve begun a series of sessions with a personal empowerment coach for women . My empowerment coach Xerces,Here defines empowerment coaching for women as a way of helping women feel their best in mind, body, spirit and business. To be able to reach the depths of a woman that can’t be reached through just any form of coaching but to help her understand who she is and to break free from any confinement that has kept her unhappy in life. I have only just started my sessions so it is a bit early to provide a detailed review but I am thoroughly enjoying it thus far. I think that one of the main requirements for embarking on a self seeking journey is the ability to be completely honest with yourself and to lay yourself completely bare and open to the possibly harsh realities of self assessment .

I think when a person has found himself his thoughts will no longer be clouded by fear or the opinions of others  but it would be replaced with a sense of understanding capable of providing the much needed confidence and strength needed to face the challenges of this life. If you have found yourself  I believe your life will no longer be a reflection of someone else’s and your feelings will not be mirrored by your surroundings. It’s very difficult to attempt to discuss a topic as vast as this in a single post but I am very interested in what you think or whether you’ve ever thought of it at all .

Would life be perfect once you have found yourself? I don’t think so. What I do believe is that you wouldn’t stay in an unhappy marriage for 30 years or remain in a job that made you miserable till you were old enough to retire.When you truly understand who you are I believe that you also develop a keen sense of self preservation. I think that there is a positive correlation between finding yourself and true happiness and once found you will perhaps experience an unwavering joy that you feel at your very core.

 

Finding happiness

One night in the middle of vacuuming and doing the laundry I put on a little music (Fields of gold- Sting) and in that moment I allowed my mind to wander as I often do lol. To be perfectly honest I think it is easier to be miserable than it is to be happy. There’s just something about sadness that seems to linger and something about happiness that just never seems to last long enough.This is what I do to help mine last a little longer or at least to happen a bit more often. Continue reading “Finding happiness”