Ancient Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu is quoted as saying he who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened.How do you know when you have found yourself? What does finding yourself mean and how does it affect your overall sense of wellbeing? Doesn’t finding yourself imply that at some point you lost yourself or could it be that we are all born lost and the ultimate purpose of life is to find yourself. I think that when you have truly discovered who you really are and accepted that person as “self”then it becomes easier to trust that person and you begin to rely a bit less on the opinion of others.
It’s difficult to know or understand who we truly are if from birth we are exposed to some of the key agents of socialisation. I don’t know who I would have been if I was born and raised in the United Kingdom to atheist parents as opposed to being born in St.Lucia in a Christian household. Normally, when people go to find themselves they seek the exact opposite of what surrounds them whether that is in terms of religion or geographical location or even sexuality.I must confess that I have never embarked on any such self seeking journey.What I have done however, is I’ve begun a series of sessions with a personal empowerment coach for women . My empowerment coach Xerces,Here defines empowerment coaching for women as a way of helping women feel their best in mind, body, spirit and business. To be able to reach the depths of a woman that can’t be reached through just any form of coaching but to help her understand who she is and to break free from any confinement that has kept her unhappy in life. I have only just started my sessions so it is a bit early to provide a detailed review but I am thoroughly enjoying it thus far. I think that one of the main requirements for embarking on a self seeking journey is the ability to be completely honest with yourself and to lay yourself completely bare and open to the possibly harsh realities of self assessment .
I think when a person has found himself his thoughts will no longer be clouded by fear or the opinions of others but it would be replaced with a sense of understanding capable of providing the much needed confidence and strength needed to face the challenges of this life. If you have found yourself I believe your life will no longer be a reflection of someone else’s and your feelings will not be mirrored by your surroundings. It’s very difficult to attempt to discuss a topic as vast as this in a single post but I am very interested in what you think or whether you’ve ever thought of it at all .
Would life be perfect once you have found yourself? I don’t think so. What I do believe is that you wouldn’t stay in an unhappy marriage for 30 years or remain in a job that made you miserable till you were old enough to retire.When you truly understand who you are I believe that you also develop a keen sense of self preservation. I think that there is a positive correlation between finding yourself and true happiness and once found you will perhaps experience an unwavering joy that you feel at your very core.